Yesterday the world changed. We had the chance to share our lives with one of the most beautiful people to walk our planet. That era is over.
Dr. Wayne Dyer passed away yesterday.
He changed my life. His message will continue to change the lives of thousands.
I had the opportunity to meet Dr. Dyer several years ago. He spoke at a martial arts convention. A friend of mine was coordinating the event and asked Wayne if he would be willing to speak.
Dr. Dyer graciously said yes, and gave an amazing presentation. Wayne commanded tens of thousands of dollars to speak at events. He visited us for free.
Whenever he felt something was just right to do he would do it. He never regarded money as his deciding factor.
I walked up to him after the event; grinned ear to ear and and looked into his joy filled eyes and said: “Could I get a Wayne Dyer hug”?
“Of course”! He beamed.
I got one of the most genuine hugs of my life. Certain moments you remember a lifetime. Here I was - this big scary martial arts guy asking to hug our speaker. He was delighted!
Sempai Shelly was there and wanted to get a picture. Dr. Dyer took his head (as shaved as mine is) and said; “Let’s put our heads together and make an ass of ourselves”! The picture was captured we laughed about it a lot.
I can’t find it; I wish I could show it to you.
The list of people Wayne Dyer influenced is so vast books could be written about it. I highly recommend his personal autobiography: “I Can See Clearly Now”. It’s very telling of the type of person Wayne was; and will leave you with chills, and a few tears.
When I was a little boy my Mom had a copy of his first book; “Your Erroneous Zones”. I tried to read it but I was too young. But I knew even then there was something special inside that book. My Mom knew it too.
I think God put that book in her hand so I would see it. God was saying: “Pay attention to this - when you’re old enough there is something in here you need”.
When I was older I read cover to cover, several times. That book made my life and our dojo what it is today.
I’ve spend thousands of hours listening to Dr. Dyer. Learning from his spoken and written words. Without a doubt he’s among my greatest teachers.
Here are a few of the biggest lessons he taught me. I hope there is something here for you.
You are responsible for everything in your life.
You do not feel bad because of anything others do. You only feel bad because of how you chose to focus. You are responsible for your own emotions.
All abundance comes from giving.
The more you give the more you get. Do not limit giving to money or you will run out quickly. Instead give from your gifts, your encouragement, your heart. You become wealthy by giving.
All fear and negative emotion come from selfishness.
When I’m scared it only means I’m not thinking of others. If I'm scared or worried or angry; all I have to do is find someone to help. As soon as I start helping others everything bad goes away.
Before you go to bed each night take stock of your day. Ask yourself: “Who did I help today”? Ask yourself: “What are all the things I’m thankful for”? Take this spirit of giving and gratitude into the hidden one third of your life called sleep. In the morning you will feel reborn.
There are no accidents.
The little things in life that you think are coincidence are not. You are here for a reason and everything that happens to you is part of this purpose.
There is no death.
We are all eternal. We go on.
I have many teachers. Some in the body; some are not.
My Mom speaks to me all the time. So do my Aunt and my Grandmother.
Teachers answer your questions. All you have to do is to ask. Sometimes you can feel them right beside you. Guiding you; maybe even hugging you.
They help you make right decisions. Decisions always based on love.
Dr. Dyer may have left the body; but I am still learning from him.
You can too.
"The ego came knocking on my door.
No one was home".
- Dr. Wayne Dyer
5/10/40 - 8/29/15