The car had severe damage! Her dad is standing angry behind her.
She didn’t have insurance.
Judge Judy ruled against her.
I didn’t want to hear about it. I didn’t want to get involved; but I was stuck at a Tim Horton’s doing my writing and they left the TV up too loud.
But a lot of life is like that. The drama just pulls us in.
Drama is seductive. Drama is magnetic. We want to walk away, but it’s hard.
The most precious resource on the planet is your attention. You know it’s the most precious; because everyone is trying to steal it!
Criminals may try and steal your money; but everyone - even honest people - want your attention.
Your attention is all you’ve got in this life.
If you give up your attention you’ve given away your life.
Sometimes we become people pleasers. We want to make other people happy and don’t want to offend. We haven’t learned to say no. Our low self esteem makes us want to stay and listen even when we should go. EVEN IF IT HURTS US!
Low self esteem is an attention problem. We’re focused on what other people think instead of spending the energy on our own thinking. So much easier to try and control what someone else thinks than to control our own mind.
We are lazy.
It’s so much easier to give up our attention (our life) than to do the real work. The real work is focusing; thinking.
The illusion is that distractions makes us feel like we are getting something done. We waste all this energy on activities, argument and drama. We think we are moving forward but we aren't. Unfocused business is like a vampire sucking away our life blood.
Sucking away our ATTENTION.
Ever watch a beginner sparring? Most of the time they bounce around and expend massive amounts of energy that has nothing to do with fighting. An experienced fighter waits long enough and the newbie gets tired. You get tired and you make mistakes. Then it’s over.
Most of us live our lives bouncing around. Working harder and harder thinking we are making progress.
We brag about our bouncing.
Look at how many hours I worked this week!
I don’t take anyone's crap; I’ll get right in their face!
Look at all my Facebook friends!
Look how busy I am; look at everything I have to do!
Busy people have one thing all in common. Busy people are selfish!
They are busy reacting to things. Doing things. Responding to things; all of the things they are doing have one thing in common. - Them.
A few months ago I woke up late for a business meeting. I rushed out of the shower; put on deodorant, splashed on some cologne, dressed and headed out the door.
So there I am; sitting in this tight room with about six other people. I notice that someone doesn’t smell very good. I couldn’t wait to get out of there; someone had really overdone it with the body spray or something.
After the meeting I got in my car.
I could still smell it. Then I realized…
...the smell was from me!
You think there is drama around you? The drama is coming from YOU!!
It’s your attention to it that creates it.
You are taking the lazy way out. You distract yourself. Focusing, takes so much more work than staying busy. But focusing pays a lot more too!
Sit and think.
Still the voices. Learn to meditate. Write down ideas. Think of others and how you can help them.
That’s what meditation is. Meditation is not just sitting quietly and focusing on the breath. Meditation is learning to WAIT. To stay focused on one subject long enough. Long enough for the ideas to come.
Someone stole someone's dog. She’s crying. She’s suing for damages.
The other person is yelling. Says she’s got nothing to do with it.
Judy can’t get either one of them to shut up.
God; I’ve got to get away.